Kate Pittman, pictured her with husband Jason, happened upon EC with her 5 month old daughter. |
Guest Blog by Kate Pittman
Elimination Communication or EC, often colloquially referred to as "potty training your baby" is a potty training method which has been used for centuries and is still commonly practiced in countries throughout the world today. This blog will take a moment to explain, observe and comment on the practices and practicality of using EC to potty train our babies here in the 21st century in America.The Concept
First, let's dive into the concept. The idea with Elimination Communication is
that you can teach a human being to be potty trained from birth. Some theories state that, in fact, humans are
born potty trained, and by the use of diapers we teach our infants to go
against their instincts and to eliminate waste on themselves. By putting a diaper on a child and waiting
for him to pee or poop before changing him, in essence his parents are rewiring his brain to do something unsanitary. Once
you succeed in teaching your baby to defecate in a diaper you will then have to
go back 2-3 years later and unteach him in a process we call "potty
training". So why not start out on the potty from day 1?
There are varying degrees to which you commit
to EC. The most hard core version goes
something like this. No diapers! It sounds phenomenal right? Why would we not all be doing this from the
start? Well, the fact is, there is a lot
of work to be done. If you want start
potty training from birth at the hospital, you will need to communicate your
plans with your care staff (just like we communicate our desire for
breastfeeding vs bottle feeding). Explain to them that you are practicing elimination communication and would prefer for them not to diaper your baby
while he is outside of your room.
If
your baby isn't going to be diapered then you will need to be prepared for
messes at first. Every time you give the
baby a bottle or nurse him, be prepared with some extra cloth diaper inserts or
waterproof bed pads or something to shield you and the baby. It will take some
extra work to be prepared. We will lay
out the pros and cons in just a little bit, but if you are still with me here
let's look at the logistics of this next.
The Logistics
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It is now your job to learn your babies
cues. Most often they will start these
signaling noises or posturings before they get anything out. If you are paying attention, you will notice
what this looks like and how it sounds.
This is where we use our skills as parents to communicate with our
babies. They may not be using words to
tell us they need to sit on the potty, but they are communicating with us through crying, gurgling, squirming etc.
Photo from Diaperfreebaby.com |
Photo from Diaperfreebaby.com |
That is pretty much it!
It may take some time to get into the routine, but after a while of
practicing this you will find that you have learned your baby's patterns and
schedule so well that it will start to become just a routine part of the
day. Just like feeding the baby begins
to be habitual so will taking them to the restroom. After some time has past, the method suggests
that your baby will start becoming familiar with this routine as well. And if the theory is right your infant/baby
will learn to hold his pee and poo until his regularly scheduled time to go
in the toilet.
My Story
Kate's children are potty training together! |
When our daughter was
about five months old he caught her going poo poo in her diaper and told her
"yuck" and proceeded to scold her about pooing in her diaper and how
she is suppose to go in the potty.
Instead of trying to explain to him how it was okay for her but not okay
for him etc etc etc i told him, "you know what you are right buddy! She is
suppose to go in the potty just like you!"
Later that night he was in the bath and Maggie and I were playing on the
floor when she started to make the face again.
Thomas, my son, saw this and said "Quick! Potty." His potty seat was right there, so I stripped
her down really quickly and sat her on the potty. She was 5 months old. She pooped and peed and Thomas and I cheered
for her. I felt brilliant!
Little did I know at the time that I hadn't
forged some sort of new potty training frontier. The concept of EC has been around forever and
is still actively practiced in many cultures around the world. But that is how I first stumbled across the
concept of putting a baby on the potty.
I started learning her signals, and it wasn't too long at all before she
was going exclusively on the toilet, except for nap times and bed time. For a while my 5-6 month old was better about
using the potty than my 2 year old! We
have, however, fallen off the wagon. I went back to work for a few months, and we couldn't keep up with it
when I wasn't at home with her all the time.
I am not sure if we will try and pick it back up or if that window of
opportunity has closed. It is said that
potty training your baby is most effective if started before 6 months of age,
but there is not any harm in trying at any point.
Pros and Cons
Now, let us talk about the pros and cons.
Cons
We are going to start out with the cons and get that out of the way. First, let's talk about the culture of acceptance of this practice. This is America, and we do not practice Elimination Communication as a society. I am not commenting on whether this is a good or bad thing, just the fact that it is not a cultural norm. In my experience, I got some push back. Some people thought is was kind of cool, but when I did it all the time they looked at me like I might be somehow hurting my child. It is something that is neither widely understood nor easily accepted in my experience. Also, to succeed at this you pretty much have to be the sole caregiver of your child, or those who care for your child during the day (relatives, day care workers, etc) must be willing to practice this. I do not see how EC could be properly practiced at a day care facility for sanity reasons. Furthermore, it is a very one-on-one process as every child is going to have slightly different cues. Also, it is a huge investment up front in time and supplies. You will be doing a lot of laundry, more so than just the typical boat load you do with a newborn. There will be more messes than what is usual with a newborn while you are learning signals and schedules.Photo from Diaperfreebaby.org |
Some doctors worry that it can cause urinary
tract infections and constipation. This
fear comes from the fact that if a baby starts to hold his urine or poop for
an extended period of time -- and for a little baby that can be a matter of 10-20
minutes -- that his bowels may slow down and become impacted if this process is
repeated every day for days on end.
There has been the concern expressed by some doctors that with tiny
bladders and such close proximity within their tiny bodies that holding urine
can cause inflammation and infection.
From my research it seems these concerns are easily addressed by taking
your child frequently to the potty and making sure you keep him and his surroundings clean.
Now you might be
thinking that this sounds like a lot of time and work. You are right. I would ask that you also remember how much
time, effort and money you put into buying diapers, changing diapers, cleaning
up a poopy baby and inevitable accidents they will still have and weigh that
against the effort of practicing EC.
Pros
Photo from Diaperfreebaby.org |
"My Carry Potty," available at A Nurturing Moment, provides a very convenient way to have a potty available everywhere you go! |
The good news with EC is, if your newborn has an
older sibling you won't have to worry about the big kids
"regressing." I have had so
many friends tell me that their pediatricians said not even to bother potty
training their toddlers if they had another baby on the way. They say it would be pointless to potty train
the soon-to-be big brother or big sister because they would inevitably start
going in their diaper again when they see baby do it. With a potty trained baby this is never an
issue, and it is actually a pretty good example.
For a while we were all in a routine together. If one of us went, we would all have a turn
on the potty. Plus, by and large, a baby
will not fight you about where they go, so it actually is easier to potty train
a baby. The last good reason I can think
of might not be universally applicable, but it was for me and one of my best
girl friends. For whatever reason, both
of our daughters, born 5 days apart and both breast fed, struggled with
pooping. We are not sure why, but their
stools would be more compact and hard.
They both would kick their legs, tighten up and cry when it came time to
go. I found as soon as I started putting
ours on the potty, pooping was a lot easier for her. I don't know if it was the sitting position
or the fact that she had open space under her rather than sitting in a chair
and having the poop squish right back on her, or what it was exactly, but
pooping in the potty eliminated her struggles and her crying. Out of all
the reasons previously listed that one was enough for me.
I hope this has been educational and helpful for
anyone who was curious about it. I would
be more than happy to continue a one-on-one conversation for anyone who has
questions or wants to talk further about Elimination Communication. I am no expert, but I am a Mom with
experience, and often that is more than enough qualification!
Kate Pittman is the mother of two children, a two year old boy and a nine month old girl. She encourages moms to follow their instincts in parenting.
I like the idea of the traveling potty! That could help us EC on the go. Thanks!
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